Flat fees vs. Hourly Billing in Divorce (and the pros and cons of each)

I know there are several divorce law firms in my market do only hourly billing for their clients. I know that there are many more that do only hourly billing. And then there are a few, (mine included), which take a hybrid approach and do a little bit of each. Flat fees vs hourly billing is a debate that is not going away anytime soon.  Here is an article from an attorney who employs a billing […]

The Best Legal Advice I Ever Gave a Divorce Client

Here is a quick summary of the best legal advice I give for someone thinking about divorce.  I meet with a lot of people to talk about ways to end their marriage.  A lot of people will subsequently hire me to help them end their marriage.  Many of these people have lots of questions, such as: who should move out, how much support will I get/have to pay, I want to keep the house – […]

Healthcare Exchanges are open – How will this affect your divorce?

It’s official. The government might be shutdown, but the healthcare exchanges are open for business.  Here is some information to answer all your questions about the exchanges and what if might mean for you if you are considering divorce. One of the biggest concerns of couples facing a divorce in North Carolina is what they are going to do about their health insurance? If they have been covered by their spouse’s plan for years, there […]

Divorce and the family business in North Carolina

Aside from the marital home and retirement accounts, the family business can be one of the largest investments that must be divided in a divorce case. If you and your spouse are both working for the business, things can get especially tricky. In researching this blog post, I came across several articles on the issue of how to divide up a family business in divorce, here, here and here… I also came across an article […]

5 things to do before you start the process of getting a divorce

No bones about it, getting a divorce is a big deal.  A really big deal.  It’s one of those traumatic life events that’s right up there with death of a loved one, contracting a terminal disease, loss of a job, getting arrested… you get the idea.  It’s a decision that must be taken very seriously.  Here are a couple of things that I recommend all my clients do before making that final decision to get […]

A Sincere Apology… I’ve been lazy

I feel the need to send an apology to my readers and come clean. I’ve been lazy.  I just checked my website/blog and realized that I haven’t posted since last July.  That’s unacceptable and just shouldn’t happen.  Not that I should use my infant daughter as an excuse, but… There have been lots of developments in North Carolina Divorce and Family Law news, and you certainly have a right to know about them! Here are […]

What makes a Happy Marriage?

Evidently, the key to a happy marriage is to be a bit selfish.  So says a recent article in the New York Times entitled “The Happy Marriage is the ‘Me’ Marriage.”  According to the author, couples in lasting marriages are effective at communicating what they want to their spouse and by doing so are able to derive personal satisfaction from the marriage. Here are some some questions (taken from the Sustainable Marriage Quiz) to ask […]

Tips to make your divorce easier

Last week the Raleigh News and Observer ran a story entitled “4 tips to make your divorce easier for your divorce attorney and yourself.”  Those tips included telling your lawyer the truth, get help from a therapist if you need it, listen to your attorney’s advice, and organize your documents before you give them to the attorney so that they don’t have to spend lots of time trying to figure out what you gave them. […]

Learning How to Be Alone

One of the scariest things about separating from your spouse is the thought of being alone.  This is especially difficult for people that have been married a long time.  Here is a nice video that talks about how to feel comfortable being alone.  Thanks to Lee Rosen for originally sharing this video with me…

Why Collaborative Divorce Works

One of my biggest pet-peeves is when another lawyer tells me that Collaborative Divorce won’t work. Don’t tell that to Cat J. Zavis.  Cat presented a seminar that I attended this past week on how Non-Violent Communication can help resolve Family Law Cases, including Collaborative Divorces. The seminar was organized by Mark Springfield, a fellow Collaborative Divorce Lawyer and colleague of mine at Separating Together in Raleigh. I can certainly understand how most lawyers that […]

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