Does Alimony hurt your ability to qualify for a mortgage?

I recently received an email from a past client that got me scratching my head. Here is the email (with identifying information removed to protect the innocent and so as not to divulge protected client information…): Hey Jim, I just wanted to let you know my current situation so that you can use it as a warning to any of your current or future clients. I have been house hunting lately and went through the […]

NCDP 01 : Introduction to the podcast and legal requirements for divorce in North Carolina

divorce in North Carolina

Podcast: Play in new window | Download Welcome to the inaugural episode of the North Carolina Divorce Podcast!  This is the “show notes” page, where I will summarize everything that I talked about in the podcast.  Today’s podcast was short and sweet, containing a brief introduction of my law firm and why I started the podcast, who I’m hoping to help with the podcast, and then I move into the legal tip for this podcast. […]

What does it mean to provide Full Financial Disclosure?

full financial disclosure divorce

For whatever reason, a lot of my clients, and I think a lot of divorcing spouses in general, have a hard time with the concept of “full financial disclosure.” Here are the objections I typically receive: That information is from prior to the date of separation, so it isn’t relevant now My husband/wife already has all this information We are splitting everything up on our own terms, so this information is not necessary Many clients, […]

It’s that time of year again… Divorce and the Holidays

divorce and the holidays

As we flip to the last page of the calendar for 2013, a topic comes to mind that I know is front and center for a lot of my readers. Divorce and the holidays. If you are thinking about divorce, or even going through one already, this can be an extremely difficult time. Perhaps this is your first holiday season after a divorce? Perhaps you just recently separated and are concerned about how much time […]

Should you go to court? How do you decide?

should you go to court

Getting a family law or divorce case to settlement is a long, windy road, with lots of points along the way for you to turn off and settle your case. But how do you make that decision?  Should you go to court?  How do you know when it is time to settle your case? The answer to those questions is difficult and one that you will need to talk to your lawyer about, but here […]

Avoid these 5 big mistakes that people make when going to family court

don't wear this to court

I talk a lot on this website about resolving cases amicably, out of court. I believe strongly that this is the best way for a divorcing couple to settle their divorce matter. Unfortunately, there are situations where going to court cannot be avoided. This morning I am going to court for one such situation, so I thought that I would address how to avoid 5 big mistakes that people make when going to family court. […]

How to deal with your pro se spouse who WON’T hire a divorce lawyer

pro se divorce

What is it about us divorce lawyers? Why do some people run to us while others view us as Superman would view kryptonite? In my humble opinion, as a lawyer that has practiced family law for 8 years, I think it is this – some people just don’t want to admit that their marriage is over. But we’ll save that story for another day. Clients hire me all the time that have a considerable amount […]

Getting remarried with kids? Maybe you should think again.

getting remarried with kids

If you are thinking about getting remarried with kids, I ran across an interesting article today that indicates that getting remarried with kids is not such a hot idea. Entitled “Why Second Marriages are more Perilous”, the article talks about just that. Frankly, second marriages is not a topic that I routinely think about, but it is something that you should consider. Many of my client’s are interested in getting remarried after we finish up […]

NC Divorce Papers – Who should file first?

The question of who should “file” NC divorce papers first depends in large part on your unique personal situation and what is meant by “filing” legal paperwork. In North Carolina, when we refer to “filing for divorce”, you could be referring to filing for the absolute divorce, or filing for any of the other legal remedies you may be seeking (i.e. post-separation support, alimony, equitable distribution, attorneys fees, custody, child support, etc.). If we are […]

We have a simple, uncontested divorce – do I really need a lawyer?

Yes. No. Maybe.  To be honest, I’m not really sure.  What I do know is that lots of people make the mistake of waiting too long to call a lawyer – like when things have gone bad and there is nothing that we can do to help.  I’ve written previously about this here.  Here is another article that talks about when you should hire a lawyer. For example, today I received a call from a […]

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