3 Common Mistakes People Make when Filing their own Divorce

There are a ton of divorce mistakes that I often see people make when they file their own divorce. When I was preparing to write this post, I did a brainstorm and could find no fewer than 10 major mistakes – any one of which could doom your divorce, cause you major legal/financial trouble, or both. So I went ahead and prepared this video outlining the 3 biggest mistakes I see people make: They file […]

NC Divorce 02 : The legal pitfalls of getting a divorce in North Carolina

Getting a divorce is a big deal – a really big deal.  If you let yourself get divorced without knowing the legal consequences of that divorce judgement, you are only hurting yourself.  In today’s episode we talk about some of the legal consequences of getting divorced so that you can decide whether you need to talk to a divorce lawyer or not. Right click here to download the mp3

NCDP 01 : Introduction to the podcast and legal requirements for divorce in North Carolina

Welcome to the inaugural episode of the North Carolina Divorce Podcast!  This is the “show notes” page, where I will summarize everything that I talked about in the podcast.  Today’s podcast was short and sweet, containing a brief introduction of my law firm and why I started the podcast, who I’m hoping to help with the podcast, and then I move into the legal tip for this podcast.  Today’s tip discusses the legal requirements to […]

Should you get divorced before the end of 2013?

If you are just starting to think about getting divorced, and you live North Carolina, then you are pretty much out of luck to get divorced in 2013, or 2014 either for that matter. The process to get divorced in North Carolina is a long one, and starts with getting separated from your spouse. Once you have separated, you must remain separated for at least one full year. After you have been separated for one […]

Divorce can be a time to reinvent yourself

Maybe you are going through a divorce right now, or maybe you are just thinking about it. There are lots of things about divorce that really stink. When looked at in comparison to life’s major stressors, such as death of a loved one, losing a job, bankruptcy, etc., divorce is right up there at the top. In addition, getting a divorce is expensive. On top of legal fees, you may have to part with ½ […]

What it really means to get divorced

Having practiced family law (i.e. divorcing people) as long as I have, sometimes it gets easy to forget that my clients are real people with real lives and real emotions.  I think that is dangerous.  Every once and awhile, a client comes along that reminds me what it actually “means” to get divorced. I had one such experience today. The attorney-client privilege prevents me from sharing pretty much anything from this individual’s story (I’ll refer […]

NC Divorce Papers – Who should file first?

The question of who should “file” NC divorce papers first depends in large part on your unique personal situation and what is meant by “filing” legal paperwork. In North Carolina, when we refer to “filing for divorce”, you could be referring to filing for the absolute divorce, or filing for any of the other legal remedies you may be seeking (i.e. post-separation support, alimony, equitable distribution, attorneys fees, custody, child support, etc.). If we are […]

What should I bring to my Divorce Assessment?

Everytime I talk to a potential new divorce client on the phone I get asked about what the client needs to do to prepare for their meeting with me.  My answer for almost ten years has been pretty much the same: “The last thing I want to do is add more stress to your life right now.  I’ll email you a questionnaire to complete and bring with you.  Make sure to write down some questions […]

In complex equitable distribution cases, who wins?

My answer is going to surprise you – it’s not necessarily who you would think.  Here are some possible answers: The person represented by the better lawyer?  (whatever that means) The person who spends the most money on legal fees? The more sympathetic spouse? The person whose lawyer is best friends with the judge? No, no, no….. and big NO. The person who wins in these big, document heavy, complicated with lots of assets to […]

We have a simple, uncontested divorce – do I really need a lawyer?

Yes. No. Maybe.  To be honest, I’m not really sure.  What I do know is that lots of people make the mistake of waiting too long to call a lawyer – like when things have gone bad and there is nothing that we can do to help.  I’ve written previously about this here.  Here is another article that talks about when you should hire a lawyer. For example, today I received a call from a […]

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