I came across a podcast today by a divorce lawyer in Boston, Massachusetts who discussed the “cost” of getting divorced. Here are some of the questions he was asked, with my answers. You hear in the news about couples staying together simply because the cost of divorce is too high. What makes getting a divorce…
Category Archives: Collaborative Law
Child Custody in Cary
I just finished watching another heart-breaking loss by my favorite professional football team – but what has me torn up more than that was how one of the announcers was telling the story of one of the players and what a great person he was be cause he just finished a two year custody battle…
Divorce Mediation in Cary
I’ve written on the topic of divorce mediation several times, and I’m writing again today because I feel that this is a topic that deserves a great deal of attention, especially here in Wake County, North Carolina. I strongly believe that divorcing couples should be able to dictate the terms of their separation, and the…
What happens at the first Collaborative Divorce Meeting?
Ok – so you’ve made the smart decision to proceed with a collaborative divorce. You’ve talked to your attorney, your spouse is on board as is their attorney, and you’ve gathered all the documents you need for that first 4-way meeting. Now what? You may be feeling a little nervous, anxious, and perhaps a bit…
How a Collaborative Divorce could save your business
In discussing the benefits of Collaborative Divorce, we often talk about how it will help save your relationship with your spouse, cause you less stress and anxiety, be less harmful to the kids, and usually costs less than “old school” litigation. One of the real world examples of this is the case of a family…
Why I like Collaborative Divorce so much…
I just started another Collaborative Divorce Case yesterday (meaning that we had the first four-way meeting with another attorney and her client). It was another shining example of why Collaborative Divorce is such a great thing for clients that are willing to work with one another to resolve their case with less stress and pain…
What is the true “cost” of Divorce?
The more people/clients I talk to, the more frustrated I become at the heart-wrenching stories of individuals who have been exposed to the “traditional” methods of divorce. By traditional, I mean divorcing couples who seek out attorneys that will “fight for their rights” to make sure they get the best deal in the divorce, even…
Easy tools to make post divorce transfers easier for the kids
I’ve had several cases settle recently that involved kids, and many more that I am working on right now. Because spouses are required to separate for one year before obtaining a divorce in North Carolina, the reality of the situation dictates that many spouses are required to deal with the children’s issues almost right away. …
No Court Divorce: Less Stress, Happier Kids… a better way
Yesterday morning I attended a “calendar call” in a domestic relations courtroom in Wake County. This is a scheduled court appearance for every attorney and litigant that has a hearing or trial scheduled in front of that particular judge for the entire week. It is an opportunity for the judge to call each case and…
What is Divorce Mediation – Does the North Carolina method work?
I didn’t realize until I had moved to North Carolina and reopened my family law practice here just how many meanings there are to the word mediation. Lets start with a basic definition – a mediation is a form of non-binding dispute resolution where the parties meet with a neutral mediator to help them resolve…