Category Archives: Alternative Dispute Resolution

Collaborative Divorce is catching on…

For those of you who are still all “doom and gloom” on collaborative divorce, here is yet another article talking about the benefits of the process.  If you are thinking about a divorce or separation, you should start considering a collaborative divorce, especially if you have children…

Divorce and kids around the holidays… Ugh…

The Holidays are hard enough for those of us that aren’t divorced.  Figuring out which relatives you are going to see when, packing the car, getting the dogs to the kennel, coordinating the cat sitter, driving across the country to visit family…. and the list goes on and on.  And I’m not divorced.  It’s enough…

Spouse left with the kids and the money – what can I do?

This is an all-to-common question, and although I have answered it several times in my “Ask a Lawyer” section, I thought I would answer it again here. The answer to this question depends, unfortunately, on the financial circumstances of the person asking it.  If you have a good job, the money issue may not be…

5 Raleigh Divorce Lawyers join Separating Together

I guess these things aren’t quite official until there is a press release about it.  Just announced – myself and four other Raleigh Divorce Lawyers have joined Separating Together, a Collaborative Family Law Practice Group in Raleigh, North Carolina. All of us have pledged to restrict our law practices to resolving family law matters without…

Questions about a Collaborative Divorce Practice

In response to my most recent blog post, I’ve received some questions about what taking my family law practice 100% Collaborative means for the remainder of my practice…  Here are some of the questions I’ve received and my responses: Does this mean that you’ll only do collaborative divorces? Actually, No.  It only means that I…

I’m all in with Collaborative Divorce

Yesterday I conducted a collaborative divorce conference at the Separating Together offices in Raleigh.  What began as an extremely emotional, divisive, and potentially explosive divorce, is now beginning to steer its way towards final resolution.  This would have been one of those cases where a typical litigation attorney would have proclaimed loudly, “collaborative divorce will…

Why Collaborative Divorce Works

One of my biggest pet-peeves is when another lawyer tells me that Collaborative Divorce won’t work. Don’t tell that to Cat J. Zavis.  Cat presented a seminar that I attended this past week on how Non-Violent Communication can help resolve Family Law Cases, including Collaborative Divorces. The seminar was organized by Mark Springfield, a fellow…

How does Collaborative Divorce work?

Many people still don’t understand exactly how collaborative divorce works – here is a brief rundown of the process. Both parties start by selecting a collaborative lawyer to assist them in their case.  This is probably the most important step, and one that many people fail to get past.  The key here is that both…

Collaborative Divorce is great for the kids

I came across a great article today that illustrates just why collaborative divorce can be such a great thing for the children of divorce. The article profiles a family from Rochester, New York that is going through a collaborative divorce with children – successfully. On anther note – I was forced to go to court…

Child Custody in Cary

I just finished watching another heart-breaking loss by my favorite professional football team – but what has me torn up more than that was how one of the announcers was telling the story of one of the players and what a great person he was be cause he just finished a two year custody battle…